Relationship Topics

I hope that you find the content here helpful! This blog is meant to provide ideas, tips, and insights and is not meant to replace a relationship with a therapist or to serve as medical advice for your specific needs.

Nov 19, 2020
4 min

Is my relationship healthy?

Take a few moments to reflect on these crucial elements that may be healthy (or not) in your connections with other people.

Aug 22, 2020
7 min

How to make hard decisions (the Six Thinking Hats model)

Decision-making is hard, especially if there's possible risk or negative consequences. The Six Thinking Hats is a pragmatic tool to help you

Jul 28, 2020
8 min

What does it mean to “need better boundaries?” (and how to do it)

If you're wondering if you need some different boundaries, one of the quickest ways to assess this is by noticing any feelings of resentment

Mar 21, 2020
11 min

How a quarantine can impact your relationships and interactions (and what to do about it)

If you live with other people, you will be dealing with some unprecedented experiences in your environment over the next weeks and months.

Feb 14, 2020
5 min

What is my Love Language (and why does it matter?)

We each prefer to give and receive love in different ways. Learn more about your preferences so that your needs in relationships can be met.

Jan 17, 2020
5 min

Validation: the secret superpower for improving your communication and relationships

Validation is a communication tool that lets another person know “I hear you.” When used correctly, it can completely shift the dynamic.

Jan 2, 2020
4 min

Questions to ask before getting married or making a commitment (please!)

If you're thinking about making a long-term commitment, please save yourselves some heartache and dive into these questions. Please!

Dec 21, 2019
12 min

Is Your Relationship in Trouble? Here's an app to help you.

One relationship app that I recommend frequently for strengthening & improving relationships is the Gottman Card Deck.

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Heather M. McKenzie, Therapist

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Online Counseling and Clinical Supervision