Let’s be honest about relationships...
Many of us did not have great role-modeling about what healthy relationships look like or how exactly to pull that off.
You have a basic human drive to be in relationships and connected with friends, family, co-workers, and romantically.
It’s crucial to your survival and happiness.
And of course…
You want to be in relationships where you feel understood, safe, loved, and able to communicate easily without frequent fighting or feeling uncertain.
You can heal your relationships.
You end up feeling misunderstood.
You don’t feel comforted or supported in the ways that you need.
You don’t feel as close to others as you want to feel.
Little issues end up turning into big fights and hurt feelings.
Or maybe you avoid bringing things up because you don’t want to have an argument.
Often it seems like you just can’t communicate about things in a way that works.
So how do you make your relationships better?
1. Better understand yourself and your particular emotional and practical needs.
2. Better understand the other person's emotional and practical needs.
3. Work to build a strong connection and bond with each other in specific ways.
4. Learn new ways to communicate effectively, with each others’ personalities and needs in mind.
Now...imagine feeling calm, at ease, and closely connected in your relationship.
Can you see it? Let’s get you there!
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Gottman Method Couples Therapy (GMCT) is based in over 40 years of research into what makes relationships work and what destroys them.
As a treatment model, it has a well-documented success rate when people engage in it effectively. The techniques are extremely transferable and work with all relationships (family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.).
The goals of GMCT are to: decrease your harmful communication styles, improve the effectiveness of your communication (even when fighting), increase the respect and affection between each other, and create deeper intimacy by developing empathy and understanding of each other.
If you want to get started on your own, the Gottmans also have several powerful books that I highly recommend:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide - This book is helpful for any committed relationship and offers research-based exercises and tools to work through together.
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships - this book is aimed at all types of relationships and focused on core evidence-based concepts of healthy connection and communication.
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love - this book offers tools for having 8 life-changing conversations on crucial relationship topics: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.
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