Start treating yourself the way you treat your friends
If you’re aiming to reduce anxiety, stress and emotional discomfort... self-compassion is a powerful concept that you’ll want to consider.
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Heather M. McKenzie, Therapist
Online Counseling and Clinical Supervision
(919) 744-8335
I hope that you find the content here helpful! This blog is meant to provide ideas, tips, and insights and is not meant to replace a relationship with a therapist or to serve as medical advice for your specific needs.
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- Jul 25
- 12 min
Your Daily Dread : How to Cope When You Feel Kinda Hopeless
Waking up feeling hopeless each day is no way to live. Explore WHY we feel dread and identify some actionable options for coping.
- Apr 4
- 8 min
How your Perfectionism, Procrastination and Anxiety are powerfully linked
Perfectionism and procrastination can get intertwined. And their overlap is more likely if you have anxiety. Explore why and tools to help.
- Jan 12
- 7 min
Dive deeper: use these self-reflections instead of resolutions
Engage with these 20 self-reflection questions for deeper awareness to know your true self beyond yearly goals & resolutions.
- Dec 12, 2023
- 9 min
Socially anxious? Try these small talk tips
If small talk makes you anxious, explore these strategies to shift your mindset, have conversation topics ready & interact with more ease.
- Aug 31, 2023
- 9 min
9 Ways to Make Friends as an Adult
Making adult friends is surprisingly hard. Consider these 9 ways to find & connect with people so you can start building new friendships.
- May 16, 2023
- 9 min
Assert yourself: How to speak up about your needs
Learn ways to express your wants, needs & preferences without causing to conflict. Try this communication formula and assertive strategies.
- Apr 4, 2023
- 6 min
Your procrastination and anxiety are linked. Some solutions!
Procrastination is typically rooted in worry thoughts and anxious feelings. Learn some specific strategies to help yourself take action.
- Feb 21, 2023
- 7 min
You need to know about the brain’s Negativity Bias (and how to wrangle it)
Learn about the brain’s Negativity Bias and how it affects your mindset. Discover practical tips to avoid getting emotionally hijacked.
- Jan 24, 2023
- 8 min
Feeling unmotivated? Check your "VITALS"
We all struggle with motivation. It seems to evaporate so easily. Learn to use the VITALS acronym to assess and improve your motivation.
- Nov 16, 2022
- 6 min
11 Holiday Permissions to Give Yourself
The closer the holidays draw, the higher the stress and worry. As you navigate holiday dynamics, give yourself these 11 permissions.
- Oct 21, 2022
- 8 min
What to expect & do after a sudden trauma
We each respond differently to traumatic situations. Learn what you might feel, the way you might act, ways you can cope effectively.
- Aug 9, 2022
- 8 min
Beyond bubble baths - 16 ways to do self-care
Self-care is anything we do to help ourselves stay physically, emotionally and mentally well. Learn 16 ways to do ongoing self-care.
- May 28, 2022
- 9 min
What you need to know about making difficult changes
It's hard to change! Learn the 6 stages of change to help you implement specific strategies for making your difficult changes successful.
- Apr 20, 2022
- 7 min
Your 3 crucial needs and how to manage emotions by filling them
All humans are driven to seek 3 basic needs: safety, connection, and comfort. Learn how understanding & filling needs helps manage emotions.
- Feb 24, 2022
- 8 min
Why it’s hard asking for help and how to get better at it
We need interconnection with others but it can feel so uncomfortable accepting care and help. Let's look at why it's hard and how to do it.
- Nov 18, 2021
- 6 min
12 ways to manage family holiday visits
Family gatherings are nearly always complicated. Consider these 12 strategies to help minimize the distress for yourself.
- Oct 23, 2021
- 7 min
Like yourself more: the power of self-validation
Validation is a human craving. We all want to matter. Since external validation isn't guaranteed, learning to self-validate is essential.
- Sep 24, 2021
- 8 min
How do I know what I’m feeling?
Emotions are crucial to our success, so it's important that we are able to identify exactly what we're feeling. Learn your body clues here!
- Aug 27, 2021
- 7 min
How to get started with mindfulness
Mindfulness is an effort to have intentional awareness of what is going on inside of you at the present moment. But how do we do this?
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