Why it’s hard asking for help and how to get better at it
We need interconnection with others but it can feel so uncomfortable accepting care and help. Let's look at why it's hard and how to do it.
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Heather M. McKenzie, Therapist
Online Counseling and Clinical Supervision
(919) 744-8335
I hope that you find the content here helpful! This blog is meant to provide ideas, tips, and insights and is not meant to replace a relationship with a therapist or to serve as medical advice for your specific needs.
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Jan 24, 20225 min
Take another look at your new goals
If you're losing motivation on your goals or just want to ensure your success, review your list and ask yourself these 7 crucial questions.
Nov 18, 20216 min
12 ways to manage family holiday visits
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Oct 23, 20217 min
Like yourself more: the power of self-validation
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How do I know what I’m feeling?
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Aug 27, 20217 min
How to get started with mindfulness
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Jul 29, 20217 min
How does my attachment style impact my relationships?
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Jul 29, 20217 min
What is my attachment style?
Attachment Style refers to the way we perceive and connect with others. It’s at the root of all our interactions with people.
Jun 22, 20214 min
Quick strategy for managing intense emotions - the STOP skill
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May 21, 20219 min
What does Borderline Personality Disorder look like?
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Apr 20, 20217 min
6 Ways to Improve Self-esteem Without Therapy
You are the only person you'll for sure be with until you die, so the health of this relationship and your self-esteem is crucial.
Mar 23, 20217 min
Why do we have emotions?
Emotions are crucial to our survival. But if we don't have great strategies for managing them, they can get us into a world of pain.
Feb 23, 20217 min
What makes a person trustable? 11 traits to look for.
Trust is one of the scariest gifts we can give someone and trust is crucial for healthy connections. 11 qualities to determine trustability.
Jan 26, 20216 min
What can I eat for better brain health?
Brain health impacts emotional health. Eating brain healthy foods can increase your mental clarity, emotional management, and overall health
Nov 3, 20207 min
How to practice self-compassion (or “Would you say that to a friend?”)
Self-compassion is about the practice of treating yourself with kindness, just as you would treat a friend you cared about.
Oct 20, 20205 min
Is my relationship healthy?
Take a few moments to reflect on these crucial elements that may be healthy (or not) in your connections with other people.
Sep 15, 20206 min
How much do you really know about suicide?
Suicidal thoughts do not mean you are crazy or that you are broken.
Suicidal thoughts DO mean that you are human and that you are in pain.
Jun 7, 20205 min
How to cope when the nation is in crisis
The U.S. is going through intense and emotional turbulence. There's no roadmap and this is new for all of us. Some tools to help you cope.
Apr 14, 20208 min
Surviving Stay Home Orders with your Sanity Intact
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Mar 31, 202011 min
How a quarantine can impact your relationships and interactions (and what to do about it)
If you live with other people, you will be dealing with some unprecedented experiences in your environment over the next weeks and months.
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